Woman reveals boyfriend received restaurant menu with prizes when she didn’t: ‘The patriarchy has struck again’
A woman has revealed her surprise after receiving a menu at a restaurant without the prices listed, while her boyfriend received one with the prices on it.
In a recent video shared on TikTok, Abbie Chatfield explained how she went to a “boujee” restaurant with her boyfriend. When they sat down at the table, he was given a menu which did not include the prices for any of the menu items.
“So we are at boujee restaurant and my menu had no price,” she explained. “And he was like, ‘Yeah, that’s expensive. And I was like, ‘How do you know that?’ “
Chatfield, who was a contestant on season seven of the Australian series The single personbased on the American show of the same name, documented different parts of the restaurant to show that she expected it to be an expensive place.
However, she was still curious how her boyfriend knew it was expensive, that’s when she realized his menu had ‘prices on it’.
“He got a menu with the prices on it, and I didn’t,” she said. “I’m the breadwinner… The patriarchy has struck again.”
In the text on the video, she underlined her point and wrote: “Only men have a menu with prices? PATRIARCHY.”
According to Atlas Obscura, offering women menus without prices, also known as “ladies’ menus”, is a common practice in “high-end” restaurants throughout Europe, as it has been assumed that men would pay. The site also notes that menus are not common in the United States. In the comments below her video, Chatfield acknowledged that the restaurant she dined at was in Venice, Italy.
As of April 5, the video has over 718,900 views, with TikTok users in the comments expressing how assumptions about topics like salary or portion sizes shouldn’t be made about a man and a woman. a woman in a restaurant.
“Happened to me at Prime in Sydney less than three years ago,” one person wrote. “It happens in a lot of boujee places and I ALWAYS mention it and make it uncomfortable.”
“The idea of what’s ‘feminine’ and what’s not in restaurants is ridiculous!” read another comment. “They always give me the cocktail or a small meal even when it’s not mine.”
However, some viewers argued that menus shouldn’t be seen as an issue and encouraged Chatfield to charge her boyfriend for their meal.
“Don’t complain! I would love to receive a priceless menu,” wrote one TikTok user, while another said, “Man should pay that’s why.
However, Chatfield noted in the comments that she had “swapped menus” with her partner and that the restaurant staff had most likely realized that she was the one paying, as “the bill went past [her].”
The Independent has contacted Chatfield for comment.