Dear Annie: Slow restaurant service cooks dinner

Dear Annie: I like going out to eat. Of course, over the past year this has been a rare treat. Lately, our state has opened up greater access to restaurants.

Recently I went with my son and my husband and was slightly frustrated with the experience. I know restaurants are just picking up speed and realize that adjustments may need to be made. However, it was a test of my last ounce of patience. I felt our table was being ignored.

I observed more than one table seated and served drinks before our waiter appeared at our table. I expressed my frustration to my son, and he thought I was being unreasonable.

Five minutes later, we still hadn’t seen our server. “Be patient,” he said. Turned out we had a different server than our surrounding tables. OKAY. After another five minutes, my husband finally located our server to ask him to take our drink order. I calculated that we spent 30 minutes waiting for this server to finally realize that we were part of his board.

Am I hard to want the same level of service that other restaurant patrons were receiving? – I just want the same service

Expensive Same Service: Looks like you’ve just had a new or inexperienced server at your table. Everyone starts with a different level of experience when starting a new job. Yes, you should probably be a little more patient. However, it’s understandable that when you go out to eat you want the same service as everyone else.

Maybe you should talk to the restaurant management and let them know it took a long time to get served. Don’t do it in a combative way. Instead, try to help the restaurant by making them aware of a shortcoming that they can correct, especially after all the hardships restaurants have endured during the pandemic. But a 30 minute wait to be served is far too long in any restaurant.

Dear Annie: I live in a retirement community. I have an acquaintance who lives alone. “Betty” frequently gets lost and fails to make it home.

When we talk about mutual friends, she doesn’t know who we are talking about. Betty has no family member watching over her. We have tried to seek help from Adult Protective Services, but they say it is not their problem and assure us that we have no legal authority to do anything.

So who’s the problem? She refuses to see a doctor. We helped her buy a cell phone, but she is unable to learn the simplest operations and does not take it with her when she leaves the house.

Her condition is deteriorating and I fear she may not be safe to live on her own any longer. No suggestion? – Concerned friend

Dear friend: You started your letter by calling the woman an “acquaintance” and you ended it by calling her a “friend”. Good for you. Your kindness and friendship could help avert disaster. The Alzheimer Society has local support groups, and I suggest checking out their website.

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